Friday, March 12

Chirraiyya..

One of my best friends got married in Feb 2007. I came to Delhi from Chennai to attend her wedding…like most brides she was a bit scared a bit apprehensive…basically pre-nuptial jitters had taken the better of her. But the thing which was worrying her the most was, “shaadi vale din main kaise dikhungi”. Bhai baat sahi bhi hai, so many people would come to attend the wedding, the bride-groom would be on an elevated platform and many cameras and at least one video vale uncle would be constantly focusing on you….”kaise dikhne” ka darr banta bhi hai…..She went to one of the best parlours in Delhi, and it would be unfair to her if I say she was not looking pretty…:)
I, being her best friend was given the responsibility of being with her all the time during and before the wedding…..me being the constant source of “baatein-gyaan bhari”..:D…was joking on one or the other thing constantly..and she was requesting/ asking/ shouting at me to pls be quiet so that she is not forced to laugh and her make up stays tucked….
For a long time I very clearly remembered how worried a girl can get about “how she looks” on her big day……
Then came my turn on the 6th day of February this year and i realised that my memory had failed me big time....
Before my wedding, I zeroed down on a parlor, based on same good reviews and a aankhon dekhi bride…a friend told..shes good…aunty thora pakati hain, किसी की सुनती नहीं हैं पर ठीक हैं चलो भाई..सही है, इन्ही के पास चले जाते हैं...वैसे भी I always felt, that सारी दुल्हन १ जैसे ही दिखती हैं, red कपडे, same makeup….और शादी में दुल्हन को कौन देखता है....:D -yes, I use to think that…:O…sab khane peene naachne gaane mein mast/ vyast hote hain…..I completely missed the fact, that शादी में कोई और देखे न देखे, शादी की एल्बम जीवन भर साथ रहती है, aur re-create nahi ki jaa sakti...:(
What followed was a sequence of events which would soon result in the images in my Shaadi ki Album...:)
शादी वाले दिन हम पहुंचे पार्लर वाली आंटी के यहाँ उन्होंने अपनी जादुई chair पे बैठाया....और कहा चलो बेटे, आँखें बंद कर लो....ढीट बच्चों की तरह कहना न मानते हुए मैं हर आधे मिनट में आँखें खोल के देखने लगी, इस बीच पाया ये गया, की आंटी ने foundation, concealer, dunno what1.....foundation, concealer...dunno what2...foundation..concealer....dunno what3.... के न जाने कितने layers से मेरे otherwise ok दिखने वाले चेहरे को "सज़ा" दिया...:( ...खैर....इसके बाद आंख्ने खोल के मैंने जैसे ही अपना चेहरा शीशे में देखा ढंग से....."आंटी ये तो बहुत ज्यादा हो गया है" ..x-(....
" अरे हाँ, ऐसे ही होता है bridal makeup, ये सब अभी थोरी देर में "seep in" कर जायेगा..."..आप चुप चाप आंख्ने बंद करके बैठे रहो..."..:O
मेरी प्रिय सहेली जो मेरे साथ गयी थी.." तू चुप चाप बैठे रह...ये अभी सब skin absorb लेगी..."....सब light हो जायेगा..."
अच्छा जी....चलो, अपनी दोस्त पे मुझे फिर भी थोडा भरोसा था....
उसके बाद १ और round आँखें बंद करने का हुआ, और इस बार शिकार पे थीं मेरी आँखें ....जब आंख्ने खोल के देखीं, तो beyond repair damage हो चुका था...."सीता माता की जय हो" बस यही शब्द गूँज रहे थे मन में.....
Parlor में मौजूद अपनी बहेन, अपनी cousin, अपनी १ और परम मित्र की और देखा, की शायद मेरी ही आँखें धोखा खा रही हों...और सच्चाई शायद थोरी फरक हो.....पर होनी को तो आज कुछ और ही मंज़ूर था....उनके चेहरों पे जो scorecard दिखा अपने इस "bridal" रूप का....मेरी रूह थरथराने की चरम सीमा पार कर गयी....
खैर, इसके बाद कुछ और painting हुई, आसपास की जनता तैयार हो रही थी, और बीच बीच में सांत्वना भरी नज़रों से मुझे देख रही थी...
अब तक मैंने मन को समझा लिया था, की जो है सही है...जाने दो...
इस सारे circuis के अंत तक मुझ पे me-the bride हावी होने लगी थी, और उस जादुई कुर्सी से उतरने के बाद जब मैंने खुद को शीशे में देखा, तो लगने लगा, की "अरे ठीक ही लग रही हूँ यार मैं.."...ये मेरे अंदर की bride बोल रही थी; मैं पूरे शादी mode में आ चुकी थी....
Parlor वाली आंटी को goodbye बोल के निकल पड़े "wedding hall" की ओर...
अब शुरू हुआ...१ नया सिलसिला....जो थोड़े बहुत doubts थे मन में अपनी इस रंगों से सजे चेहरे को लेके वो सब दूर हो गए....
सभी मौसी, मामी, चाची, ताई, बुआ-ओं ने देखते ही अपना फ़र्ज़ भरपूर तरीके से निभाना शुरू किया..."अरे बेटा..कितनी सुंदर लग रही है....."
"बहुत ही सुंदर बेटा...बहुत प्यारी लग रही है..."
वाह वाह ..मन मयूर नाच उठा....मतलब मैं १ दम सही सोच रही हूँ....."मैं अच्छी लग रही हूँ..."...YAY!!
खैर.....इसके बाद १ के बाद १ शादी के कार्यक्रम होने लगे.....और दिमाग चेहरे से हट गया.....जब तक मैंने शादी के फोटो नहीं देखे और उन्हें अपने मित्रजनो को नहीं दिखाया....:D
जब मित्रों को कुछ "अच्छी" तस्वीरें भेजीं....तो वार्तालाप कुछ ऐसे हुआ...
me: bhej din pics...
friend: okies..lemme check
*after a good 2 minutes*
me:??
milin??
friend: abe tu to 1 dum diff lag rahi hai...
me: :)
*another 2 minutes*
me: diff as in???....
friend: hmm.....
me:????
*again 2 min*
friend: u are looking very diff....lag hi nahi raha ki tu hai...
me: phew!!!..ok, to jo main lag rahi hun.."vo" kaise hai??
friend: :)).....tu 1 dum bride lag rahi hai....:)
me: :O.....
met a dear cousin in Hyd after marriage...he had seen the made up me at the wedding...
cousin: abe tera chehra to bahut glow kar raha hai.....shaadi ka make up abhi tak bach rakha hai kya face pe...:D..:D
I couldnt help but laugh....:D
Sent the pics to a friend who apparently wanted to se me in lehnga and make up etc....she never replied after seeing the pics...:)
Anyways, sis has already decided that shes not going to the same "parlor vaali aunty", on her big day!!
I am still waiting for the official album, hoping that the photoshoped pics would be somewhat better...:D
The only silver lining in all this make up circuis was that husband dear found it perfectly fine and thought that the bride me was looking good....:))
Am listning to this song after a long time, and as usual..loving it..:)
PS: Post on shaadi is still not complete, will post it soon...:))
Title of this post is a word from one of the folk songs which were being sung at my sasuraal when i reached there..:)..i loved that song and specially this word. It has nothing to do with the post otherwise..:)

23 people have something to say...:

Esoterica said...

hahaha - finally the make up story! but where are the shaadi pics???? i didnt get to see any :(

Serenity said...

to sum up you were looking great!

Anonymous said...

ha ha ha!
yaar tum itni bhi kharaab nahi lag rahi thi!!! ok i ll give u some photo of ur wedding where u r looking really nice!!

Neeraj Rohilla said...

ROTFL...
Matlab kya to likh daalti ho...;)

Deepti said...

@anonymous...shilpi ho tum shsyad...bhai bhejna zaroor se aise snaps..:)

@neeraj sir..ji yahi sacchai hai..:D

Deepti said...

@esoterica will send u few pics...frm my camera...:)

@Tushti tu meri sabse achchi dost hai....thankus...:))

Raksha Rajput said...

Are koi shak mat karna ekdum jhakkas dikh rahi thi tum. Dekho koi baat nahi thodi exercise karna padi makeup ke liye but its ok. waise achha likha hai.

mindspace said...

i can understand the sitting on magical chair at the parlour and being told not to open the eyes till the complete transformation has happened.. luckily in my case, the lady didn't overdo things.. i had given enough warning in the beginning not to make me a resemble a white puppet..

loved reading ur hindi description of the whole scene.. I am sure you were looking just fine..

n i am assuming one of the ladies in the header of ur blog is ur mom.. reminds me of our campus days staying with family...

Finally, all the best for a happy married life. n yes, Congratulations!

~Tara

The Alchemist said...

hilarious to the hilt, half way thru the suspense was at peak, finally like our good old bwood movies.. happy ending :)

Deepti said...

@tara hje he...thanku so much...:)
Ye the one wearing the big nose ring is my mum...

@alchemist lol...thankus ji..:)

mindspace said...

so this is ur wedding snap. we have the similar kind of ring to be worn during wedding rituals in kumaun..

Deepti said...

@mindspace....o kool..:)..i am frm garhwal, married into a Kumauni family...yeah this is a snap after the haldi haath....my mum wid my mausis and maamis..:)

Prats said...

ROFL!!! You r looking diff I must say ;-)

Deepti said...

@prats i know by now the diff look..:D

डॉ .अनुराग said...

ओर कभी कभी फोटोग्रापर फाइनल टच देने से पहले घर पे आकर पूछता है ....दुल्हन के चेहरे को थोडा गोरा बना दूं....

Lata said...

bhabhi.. u were looking really nice.. do hell with what people say!!

rashmi ravija said...

ha ha njoyed reading ur first hand account of marriage jitters and parlor visit...it happens with all the bride...and yeah u shud look diff(read gorgeous :)) on ur wedding.....u were lucky it ws jst diff n not that bad..one of my friend had to remove her make up and had to wash her face thoroughly..

Deepti said...

@Dr Anurag..he he..ji 1 dum sahi kaha....:)
aapka blog padha, tippanni vahin par karenge..:)

Deepti said...

@Lata thanks sweety...:))...u are a darling....:)

Deepti said...

@rashmi he he...ye..:)
btw read ur blog...bahut hi achcha likha hai aapne...:))..ab regulary aayenge aapke blog pe..:)

wishes galore said...

haan ji aisa hi hota hain...can relate to it as i have to tell the parlour wali aunty a thousand of times ki "aunty jyada mat karna""natural rehne dena":P
ohh u are from garhwal? i lived my childhood in the hills of garhwal:)
congratulations..

chhavi said...

congrats deepti...... u r so funny...........pls put atleast one phpotograph of ur marriage yaar.........

Shilpi said...

Arre yaar maaza aa gaya ye sun kar .. hastein hastein mein pagal ho gayi :) shaadi actualy cartooning process hi hain :)